2/2/2020

I’m back, finally. Wow, this is my first post in 2020. It took a while to get back in the saddle. I had a hard time at the end of the year. In a period of a few weeks 3 persons in my circle of friends passed away. It was very hard to accept this and I needed meds to get through the day and the night. I just – started questioning everything, you know? And I was thinking I made a mistake by adopting Jimi. But I’m feeling better now and stopped taking meds last week. Thank goodness the days are getting longer, that helps a lot too. And did I mention chocolate and coffee?

Jimi’s also back in full force. With his paws on my credit card, wallet and car keys, he’s ready to tackle  the problems of life. Jimi enjoys living with me. I’m looking forward to spend time in the garden with my furry friend.

Enjoy this beautiful day, my friends, wherever you are. Peace, love and understanding.

152 responses

  1. More power to you and Jimi. It’s so sad and debilitating to lose friends. And these days there’s much that is lowering to the spirit besides. But what a transformation in Jimi from when he first came home with you. Wishing you joy, Herman.

  2. So sorry you’ve lost some friends….it kind of reminds us of our own mortality doesn’t it. It helps to remember that our friends would want us to carry on though. Jimi looks fabulous and I’m glad that you are feeling better Herman. Long winter days sometimes don’t help with our moods but Spring is coming – and you and Jimi can enjoy the garden……and there’s ALWAYS chocolate and coffee for a pick me up!!! Take care…………..

    Hugs, Pam (and Teddy too)

  3. I’m glad you’re starting to feel better.That sounds like a terrible end to the year. Do you have a full spectrum sun lamp? Mine is wonderful for SAD. (Better make sure Jimi doesn’t have your Amazon password. 🙂 )

    • Thank you so much for your kind comment! My passwords are kept in a very safe place and hard to find for Jimi, the burglar cat… 😉
      I’ve postponed the search for a full spectrum lamp. I’ll get one later this year.
      Hope you’re having a wonderful Sunday!

  4. Hello dear Herman. I worried that something might be wrong and I don’t like that I was right. Oh Herman, I am sorry to hear your news. Gentle hugs for your immense loss. Your heart was broken and I’m glad you were able to get some help to sleep.It’s something I’m familiar with but also realize the importance of sleep. To which I will now partakek 😀 Glad you’re doing better, keep going in the right direction xK

    • Hi Kelly! Thank you so much for your kind words, my dear friend! I guess losing friends and family is a bad side effect of growing older, unfortunately. But I’m feeling better now and went shopping for a new synthesizer. More about this in later posts. Now I’m ready for another strong and hot Nespresso…
      Hope you’re having a great Sunday, my friend!

  5. Hello my friend Herman,
    I am sorry about your recent loss. It must have been a very challenging and sad time. I am relieved to hear you (and Jimi) are doing better now. Please do continue to take good care!
    Best wishes, Takami

    • Hi Takami. Thank you so much for your kind comment. I’m feeling better now and I’m enjoying the longer days. Glad to see spring is getting closer in this part of the world.
      Hope you’re having a wonderful Sunday, my dear friend!

    • Hi Marketa. Thank you so much for your kind comment! I’m feeling much better and I’m looking forward to longer and warmer days…
      Hope you’re having a great Sunday!

    • Hi Debra. Thank you so much for your kind comment! I’m feeling much better now, especially with the promise of longer and warmer days ahead…
      Hope you’re having a great Sunday!

  6. I am so sorry for the loss of your friends. Three in such a short time would be too much for anyone. I’m glad you are back and I think cats can be very helpful when we are ill or just feeling down.

    • Hi Charles. Thank you so much for your kind words. You are so right, I was glad to have Jimi by my side. Cats can give you a lot of love when you’re going through a difficult time.
      Hope you’re having a great Sunday, my friend!

    • Thank you so much for your kind comment! Jimi is a big boy now. I’m glad he loves my company and his forever home…
      Hope you’re having a great Sunday, my friend!

    • Hi Polly. Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m feeling much better now and looking forward to the longer and warmer days… So glad to have Jimi by my side.
      Hope you’re having a wonderful Sunday!

    • Hi Debra. Thank you so much for your kind words. Growing older also means losing friends and family, I guess. And it can be very hard too… But I’m feeling much better now.
      Hope you’re having a great Sunday, my friend!

  7. Hello, Herman! I missed your posts! It’s great to see you here again! Sunlight, cat, chocolate and coffee it’s a good set, good enough to overcome every trouble or at least make it a bit more endurable.

  8. I’m very sorry, Herman. It’s so very difficult to lose friends. You have had to deal with a lot of loss, and it’s something you never get used to. I’m happy that you are doing better and Jimi is ready to help you tackle life and take charge of the world.

    • Hi Tim. Thank you so much for your kind comment and support! Reading such warm words make me feel better. I’m really looking forward to the spring and summer. I’m already enjoying the longer days…
      Hope you’re having a great Sunday, my friend!

      • It’s been a lowkey Sunday. I took advantage of most everyone going to Superbowl parties to go grocery, bird food and cat food shopping. There was much less traffic and one store was practically empty with the clerks at the checkout counters bored waiting for people to come in the store and buy something. First time I’ve experienced so few people in that store.

        • The story about the Superbowl is also over the news in this part of the world, although it isn’t very popular over here. Belgians and Europeans are more football (soccer) and bicycle-races minded.
          I can imagine that the US of A looks like a ghost town during the Superbowl. I remember when Belgium played Brazil and France in the World Cup Football semi finals there were no cars are people in the streets…

          • I’ve only seen parts of Superbowl games if I happen to be at Laurie’s parents when it’s on. Laurie’s mom is a sports animal and follows football and bicycle racing. I’m not very interested in sports in general. I like bicycle racing, but there are a lot of sports fanatics out there. Baseball is really popular in the US of A.

            • Looks like my dad could join Laurie’s mom and watch tv together. My dad loves to watch football and bicycle races on tv. Occasionally I’m staying at his apartment to keep him company while watching the Belgian football team.

    • Hi Correne. Thank you very much for your kind comment. I’m so glad we’re heading in the right direction to spring and summer…
      Hope you’re having a great Sunday!

  9. Loss is all its forms is hard on one. I am glad to see you back, Herman, and that life has turned the corner for better times. You and Jimi have each other as you walk out of winter into spring.

    • Thank you so much for your kind words and support! Glad to read all these warm comments!
      Hope you’re having a great Sunday!

  10. Chocolate fixes everything, up to a point.

    I’ve been in that place a couple of times — the second I shot-put a funeral bouquet into the back garden, screaming profanities at the universe. The animals are here to get us through it. I think Jimi understands his task. He’s got ya.

    • Thank you so much for your kind comment and support! You are so right about your view on chocolate. I was feeling so depressed I stopped having coffee and chocolate for 3 or 4 days… hard to believe. But so glad to have Jimi by my side on the dark days.
      Hope you’re having a wonderful Sunday, my friend!

    • Thank you so much for your kind words and support, Lemony. Jimi is really a cool cat and I enjoy his company a lot…
      Hope you’re having a great Sunday, my friend!

  11. We missed you! So sorry to hear about your friends. It is difficult to lose those you love. Good to hear you are feeling better and that Jimi is at your side.

  12. Stap voor stap, dag voor dag zijn we weer op weg naar de lente en zomer.
    Ik ben blij hier terug iets van jullie te lezen ❤ !!!!! Dikke knuffels

    • Ik was mijn zin kwijt om nog iets te posten, zag het even allemaal niet meer zitten. Maar intussen gaat het weer heel wat beter en kijk ik uit naar de lente…
      Bedankt voor de lieve woorden! Jimi vraagt wanneer je nog eens spekken komt eten…?? 😉

  13. I’m glad you’re feeling better. The winter here on my patch of the planet is wearing on many people’s nerves, especially on the east coast with their record-breaking snowfalls.
    I hope Jimi helps you through the rest of it! 😻

    • Hi Jennifer. Thank you so much for your kind words and support! We’re very lucky in this part of the world: still no snowfall so far this winter. But I remember we had 30 days of snow in March a few years ago… But I like to believe spring is just around the corner! 😉
      Hope you’re having a wonderful weekend! Stay warm, my friend!

  14. I’m so sorry for your loss. I understand how rough a time that must’ve been for you but I’m glad you’re feeling better and I’m sure Jimi was there provide comfort and help you through it and he will continue to do so.

    • Hi Jeanne. Thank you so much for your kind comment and concern. Reading such warm words make me feel better.
      Hope you’re having a wonderful Sunday, my friend!

    • Thank you so much for your kind comment! I’m also blessed to have the company of such a sweet boy!
      Hope you’re having a wonderful Sunday, my dear friend!

  15. We’re so sorry for your losses Herman and wish you kinder times ahead. Jimi looks so well and it’s good you are there for each other. Enjoy your time together and please give Jimi a big pat from us all 🤗💖🐈

    • Consider it done, Jimi sends his regards to you all…!!

      Thank you so much for your kind comment and support. Reading such warm words make me feel better. And you are so right, I’m very lucky to have such a sweet furry friend by my side…
      Hope you’re having a wonderful Sunday, my dear friend!

  16. Oh no, 3 people close to you all so quick is enough to put anybody down in a dark place. It’s so good you’re feeling better. And I see the days getting longer; that’s a blessing. And Jimi is still adorable, tho I’d watch those credit cards, cos he’s a very smart cat, and it’s easy to order extra cat treats on line. 🙂 Keep being well and feeling better, dear friend. Spring is a just short time away now.

    • Haha… as we speak, my credit card is still working and no extra treats were delivered so far… 😉

      Thank you so much for your kind comment and support. The last weeks of December were very hard and dark. But I feel a lot better now. And like you said, spring is just a short time away now. Looking forward of having coffee outside in the garden with Jimi chasing all kinds of insects. Hope you started making plans for your garden…
      Hope you’re having a wonderful Sunday, my dear friend!

    • Hi there. Thank you so much for your kind comment and concern. I’m feeling much better now and I’m looking forward to longer (warmer) days and spring.
      Jimi is such a sweet boy. I’m so happy to have him by my side…
      Hope you’re having a great Sunday, my friend!

    • Thank you so much for your kind words of comfort, my dear friend! We fully agree on the chocolate, coffee and sunshine part. And of course, let’s not forget Jimi, the cool cat!
      Hope you had a wonderful weekend!

  17. Jeez Jim – so glad you are back. I have a pretty good idea of what you mean…wondering if I wil outlive my own cats (the youngest one is 6) as I turned 74 the last week of December – then got shingles, ruptured a biceps tendon and then – just yesterday – had my heart calico die after an illness.Wishing you continued strength and support. Your words helped me remember we’re really not alone out there

    • Hi Catladymac. Thank you so much for your kind comment and support. So glad you liked and enjoyed the new post! It’s maybe a bit too late but I like to wish you all the best and a Happy Birthday. We are so lucky to have our cats to keep us company when we’re going through a difficult period.
      Hope you’re having a wonderful Sunday!

  18. We’re sorry you had a rough spot. They are frightening and painful, but run their course, and it’s best to be honest and accept and determine if you need to make any changes. We’re also glad you’re back to it, and that Jimi is staying! As the days grow longer, hopefully you are happier each one!

    • Hi Bernadette. I’m glad I’m feeling better again. But even in the darkest moments I realised things would get better again. You just have to wait and get through this difficult period.
      Wishing you a great week, my dear friend!

  19. Dear Herman, I was getting worried for you, since I haven’t seen any posts of yours for a while, thinking that it is unusual. I deeply understand that when you or we are getting overwhelmed with loosing dear One’s , who have meant so much in our lives, feeling depressed and just wanting to shut down for a while. I have had similar experiences for the last few months, yet we get back on our feet somehow, appreciating the love we get from our cats, purring away and demanding their presence, they can be very healing because of their being. Moshu and I send you and Jimi much Love , hoping great treats are coming your both ways.

    • Hi Cornelia. Thank you so much for your kind comment, support and concern! I’m glad I’m feeling better again. But even in the darkest moments, I realised that things would eventually get better again. And yes, Jimi was a great support and he helped me to get through these dark days.
      Wishing you a wonderful week, my dear friend!

    • Hi Doug. It was very hard, the ending of the year and I was questioning everything. But I’m feeling much better now.
      Thank you so much for your kind comment, my friend!

      • I follow a simple philosophy: dealing, healing. When I first came down with Wegener’s granulomatosis, I felt sad for myself, a bit bitter. I had to start using a cane and had lots of medical treatments and check ups that interfered with my former routine. While waiting in the hospital waiting room for one of my appointments, I witnessed a man in a highly technical wheel chair that he was having trouble learning how to use. (He had to puff into a tube and other things along that nature to make it do his will – he was paralyzed from the neck down…) He was well dressed, as was his wife, and he looked to be in his 30s, yet was confined for the rest of his life to this wheelchair that he had yet to master. My guess was he was a successful professional cut down by either disease or an accident at the exact time of life he should have been celebrating his successes. I watched this scene and had an epiphany: my circumstances were nowhere as desperate and grim as his, so why was I moaning about having to use a cane and deal with all the medical issues I had?! I learned to deal, and it helped me to heal. Herman, people are able to overcome staggering downturns in life if they believe they can, and I’m glad you were able to overcome what would stop many people in their tracks.

        • Thank you very much for your comment and view, Doug. Even in my darkest moments I’m telling myself that things will eventually get better. I know people (some of them are friends) who lost a child by suicide and cancer. How hard must that be, losing your child? Seeing things in perspective, I’m realising I’m leading a luxurious life and should learn to enjoy it a little bit more.
          Wishing you all the best, my friend!

    • Thank you so much for your kind comment, my friend! I’m glad I’m feeling better again. December was a very hard month for me…
      Wishing you a great week!

  20. I’ve been wondering about you! So glad you are on the mend, and so sorry for your losses! Death is so hard and surreal. Thank God you have Jimi. He’s precious and looks like he’s taking good care of you. Sending healing vibes…

    • Hi Pamela. Thank you so much for your kind comment and concern! I’m feeling much better again and I’m happy to have Jimi by my side. He’s such a sweet boy…
      Wishing you a wonderful week, my friend!

  21. Herman, I’m truly sorry to learn of the loss of your friends, may you find the inner strength to see you through this difficult time; my condolences to you and the families as well ~~ we have a saying here at my house that nothing good comes from an odd numbered year; at least in our family is hasn’t..may 2020 bring you and Jimi lots of happiness and health, chocolate, coffee and cat treats 🙂 ♥♥

    • Thank you so much for your kind words and support, my dear friend. This really means a lot to me and it’s much appreciated! I hope you are right and 2020 (no odd numbered year) will bring me more happiness… Thank goodness I got Jimi by my side, he’s such a sweet boy. And yes, I’m looking forward to more chocolate, coffee and treats for Jimi… 😉
      Wishing you a wonderful week!

  22. Herman,so sorry you lost three good friends in such a short time span. The kids and I send our hugs and purrs and condolences, and we’re glad you are feeling much better. It’s the pits to feel such sorrow.

    Jimi is such a handsome boy and I’m glad that he is still part of your world. His personality is his own and eventually he’ll have you wrapped around his furry little paw whether you know it or not. Enjoy your chocolate and espresso!

    • Hi Mary. Thank you so much for your kind words and concern. Reading your comment comforts me a lot. Let’s hope 2020 will be a better year…

      Jimi is such a sweet boy. I’m so glad he likes his new home and he enjoys my company. He gets his treats in the morning while I’m having espressos and chocolate…

      Wishing you a wonderful week, my dear friend!

  23. I’m so sorry about your tough close to the year. I’m glad that Jimi is back and ready to tackle the world with you too. Our furry friends are a challenge sometimes, but in the end they always conquer our hearts! ❤ I wish you a peaceful February and beyond for 2020!

    • Hi M.B. Thank you so much for your kind comment and support! This means a lot to me.
      You are so right, cats can be a real challenge sometimes but like you said, they will always win our hearts. I’m so happy Jimi is by my side and he enjoys my company… He helps me to make me feel better.
      Wishing you a wonderful week, my friend!

  24. I’m very happy to see you back, but so sorry for your recent losses. It is hard enough to cope with one friend passing, let alone three in a short time. No wonder you were having such a hard time.
    We do start to question everything.
    Jimi, however, is looking very comfortable and relaxed. He has certainly settled in with you and now he can repay your kindness in adopting him by giving you comfort. 🙂

    • Thank you so much for your kind comment and concern. This really means a lot to me. I’m doing fine and feeling very good. So glad we’re heading in the direction of spring…
      Jimi is a good companion to help me get through the winter. He’s such a sweet boy!
      Wishing you a great week, my friend!

  25. I’m so sorry to hear that, Herman. It must have been very tough for you. We’re glad that you’re feeling better now and we’re glad that you have Jimi to look after you, his face says it all💗Pawkisses for a Happy Wednesday🐾😽💞

    • Thank you so much for your kind comment, my friend! I’m glad I’m feeling better and I’m also very lucky to have such sweet boy to keep me company…
      Hope you’re having a wonderful week!

  26. I wish you had a better year. Your new friend Jimy is getting your credit card very close. Those friends are never boring. Greeting.

    • Thank you so much for your kind comment! Well, I believe good friends with their paws on my credit card can be trusted… But I haven’t checked my bank account yet!
      Hope you’re having a wonderful week!

  27. When I look at Jimi’s eyes, I get the impression that he was meant to be with you. He’s going to help your heart heal from the loss of Mr. Bowie and your three friends. Animals are amazing in that way.

    Tigger and I do hope you feel better.

    • Thank you so much for your kind comment and concern. This really means a lot to me! I think you are right. Like I mentioned in previous posts, I met Jimi in such an unexpected way that I had a feeling ‘someone’ was pulling some strings to make this happen. Jimi is such a sweet boy and and so happy he’s by my side.

      I hope Tigger and you are ok. Wishing you a wonderful weekend, my dear friend!

  28. I am so sorry too, to hear this dear Herman. My thoughts and love with you, Jimi is great and I am sure will help you being with you. Love, nia

    • Hi Nia. Thank you so much for your kind comment, my dear friend! I’m feeling better right now and looking forward to the longer days and spring. December was a very hard time to get through. Thank goodness Jimi is such a sweet companion to make me feel better too…
      Wishing you a wonderful weekend!

  29. Herman, I’m glad you’re back. I’m not really, nothing bad, but to be honest having really had the heart to be blogging after the passing of Mr Bowie. I loved that little cat. So sorry to hear of your bad news. Hope things slowly improve for you day by day. Hang in there. I look in from time to time and hope your next post is to say you are okay. Jimi was sent your way for a reason!

    • Hi Jill. Thank you so much for your kind comment and concern. I’m still feeling better each day. Like I mentioned above in other replies, even in the darkest moments I knew things will eventually get better.
      I do miss Mr. Bowie a lot and think of him everyday. But I’m also happy that I found Jimi and he loves to be my friend.
      Wishing you a wonderful weekend, my friend!

  30. Oh my! I am so sorry that the end of the year ended so tough, making the beginning of the year tough. I can’t even imagine. So sorry. My heart goes out to you. I think it is wonderful that you sought help! I am glad you are making a come back. Be gentle with yourself . . . as you may know grief is a weird thing – it comes it goes, it sneaks up on you, it hits you like a ton of bricks – hang in there.

  31. Oh Herman I’m so sorry to hear of your friends .. I do understand! I lost my two closest friends within a year of each other .. I was devastated! Miss them so much. I’m so pleased that you have Jimmi.. he loves you that’s for sure! Go the coffee and chocolate! Hugs my friend

    • Hi Julie. Thank you so much for your kind comment and concern. This really means a lot to me, my dear friend! As you said, losing close friends and family can be very hard and painful. I was so happy that Jimi was by my side to make me feel better in the darkest moments…
      Hope you’re having a great weekend, my dear friend! Thanks for your support!

    • Hi Sir Albertus. Thank you so much for your kind comment and concern. I’m feeling much better now and looking forward to spring. Thank goodness Jimi is here to keep me company…
      Hope you’re having a wonderful weekend, my friend!

    • Hi Crystal. Thank you so much for your kind comment. Glad you’re back and liked the post!
      Hope you’re having a wonderful weekend!

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